Around this time of year, when everyone is decorating their houses for Halloween and sipping on Pumpkin Spice Lattes, I always get a feeling of overwhelm. A feeling that I’m not doing enough. A feeling that I should be buying all the things and doing all the things.
This feeling that I have to do it all in order to be a good mom.
I have to decorate with the spookiest skeletons and serve the bone shaped pancakes for breakfast. I have to wear the most trendy sweaters. I have to think of the most unique Halloween costumes for my little ones.
And maybe this is a flaw of my own, but I know I’m not the only mom out there who worries about being perfect. Perfection is innate in us – we want to be the best mom, the best wife, the best employee. Whatever it is, we strive to be better than our best.
Better than our best is not sustainable, though.
The exhaustion that comes with just being a mom day in and day out, and then we add on this perfection. This need to be and do the best. It’s overwhelming. It’s impossible to keep up with.
And every year, I try to let go just a little bit more – I don’t go to every Fall Festival or Trunk or Treat that is offered. I don’t buy all the Halloween decorations – the Dollar Store skeletons will do just fine.
How do I let go of this perfectionism and see what is reality?
Let’s translate this into our lives in general. We don’t have to have all the most expensive baby equipment. We don’t have to go to every family meal that is planned. We are allowed to do our best, but not be perfect.
I like to remind myself that I don’t have to do it all with these simple affirmations. Give them a try.
I am happy with what I have.
I will allow myself to rest today.
My children love me, no matter what.
I don’t have to do it all.
I enjoy my life just as it is.
Take this into your day today. Know that you are an amazing mother just the way you are, not the way you think you should be. It’s okay to strive for your best, but take a look at reality and don’t let perfectionism rule your life. You are doing a good job, mama.